Angela Mollard: Why is the marriage problem in “Sex/Life” so bad

“Hey, cute, tell me, is there a sex/life column on your radar?” she asked.

She went on to explain that all her friends were talking about the new Netflix series and asked a question: Can women have everything?

Oh dear. This is the only bad thing about making a living by expressing opinions-people want you to have opinions.

Does she realize that I will have to cheat on Clarkson’s farm (Amazon Prime, very interesting) and East Side Mare (Foxtel, Ms. Kate Winslet at her most brilliant time), I have double dated/lived.

To make matters worse, this is a terrible name for a TV show. Just like I was turned away by a thin-legged man, using slashes lazily did not work for me. This is an unimaginative afterthought, not a cleverly designed headline. No one thinks of a show called “Sex/Life” when doing “Sex and the City”.

I digress. Sex/life is a show about a very attractive woman marrying a very attractive man. They both live in a very attractive house and have two very attractive children.

The three episodes of “Me” actually don’t remember the names of the characters, but I can describe their bodies in great detail. For example, she has a very beautiful face and quite large nipples, while he has a bright smile and a muscular, toned butt.

Of course, she is the one who invested in this combination Very hot ex boyfriend -Can’t remember his name again-but he is Australian and his accent is as wide as his, uh, (insert preferred anatomical reference) very long.

I know this because there is a shower scene deliberately inserted (sorry) into episode 3, so that you can continue watching a long time after you realize that you have been tricked into watching a soft porn disguised as a drama.

There is nothing wrong with visual stimulation now-especially during these days of Blankmanji confinement-but like a lover who insists on talking after intercourse, sex/life annoyingly requires us to consider whether it is possible to have a relationship with them An energetic sex life is the same person who shares a satisfying family life with you.

As the sexy new mother-her name is Billie-wrote in her (no password protected) laptop diary: “I’m not sure if this is who I should be. In my life, I felt free for a while. I couldn’t help wondering where did that girl go?”

Although our new mother sounds a lot like Carrie Bradshaw, and although her accessories are babies instead of shoes, I want to answer her question, not only because I have the ambition of a sex therapist, but also because it saves you from having to look at this mockery. Debbie does Dallas…in Hampton.

First of all, I’m not sure if it is helpful for any woman to consider her former lover when breastfeeding, especially since arousal will prompt a surge of oxytocin, which may cause you to drown your baby.

As for whether you can continue to feel pornographic to the guy who shares the bathroom with you, when the kids pretend to fall asleep when crying at night and are so complacent that he thinks cutting toenails is optional, um…yes, yes ,you could. With conditions.

Essentially, family life requires intimacy, and explosive intimacy—rather than perfect maintenance of sex—needs a sense of freshness and distance.

The talented Esther Perel, author of “Mating in Captivity,” calls this the central paradox of love.

“Love likes to know everything about you,” she wrote, and desire “to thrive on mysterious, novel and unexpected things.”

As she pointed out, as the couple settled in the comfort of love, they no longer fan the flames of desire, forgetting that fire needs air.

This is where “Sex/Life” is so wrong. The core couple lacks mature consciousness and cannot realize that the answer to their plight lies in their separation, rather than their carefully planned attempt to unite.

When they had sex in the car with their neighbor’s swimming pool, they did not realize that it was space and conspiracy, not a clichéd sexual environment, which created opportunities for desire to flourish.

Billie may be the sexiest woman on TV, but she has long worried about which man will give her everything she needs, which is not attractive.

None of them will. Instead, she needs to establish contact with herself and become an independent and happy person to create autonomy, which is the core of emotional intelligence.

Underwear, oysters, champagne, candles-they all conceal what they really want, that is, a confident, warm, and emotionally expressive person who can convey what they want.

So, to answer my friend, yes, I think if you are not as capable as Billie to grasp the two basic truths about desire, you can have everything: you must make room in your unity; even with the new The exciting sexual behavior of the partner—whether exciting or illegal—will eventually disappear through proximity or projection, leading to a truly satisfying relationship.

Accepting this-although it provides all the complexity and nuance-is perhaps the sexiest thing.

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I am a problem-solving person, but when I supported my daughter through a disrupted 12th grade, I learned that being with another person and listening to their feelings is more powerful than trying to solve the problem. many.