Playing games with my husband makes our marriage stronger

when mentioned For video games and marriage, this is usually not good news. Pop culture, books, and movies are full of anecdotes or comedy skits about a despised and exhausted wife who was dumped by her husband for the latest video game.

I can now imagine: usually a wife will wear some very uncomfortable underwear into her husband’s dark and damp playroom to lure the drowsy, caffeinated husband out of some game. It ended with screaming, brutality, and rolling–but not the good one.

However, not in my case. I swear that my husband, Jethro, who has been with me for two years, is 27 years old. Playing video games together actually makes our marriage stronger-now I feel closer to him than ever.

As we knew in March 2020, when the coronavirus pandemic shut down the world, Jethro and I hadn’t even been married for a year. That summer, we spent our first wedding anniversary in a small two-bedroom apartment in London, regretting what might have happened. We exhausted everything: running, recipes, redecorating, our record collection and coffee. Sometimes it can be very stressful-surely this is not the life of a newlywed couple?

To be honest, we have never really played a game together before. Jethro likes difficult adventure games with impossible puzzles, logic, battles and big ass weapons. I do not have. I like bright colors, friendship and “good deeds” games.My closest thing to fighting and big ass weapons is Fallout 3, Even so, I still escaped the mad dog.

We like different things and have completely different personalities, so we never considered playing games together. Jethro is a digital person; he is cool, calm, and very logical. I am a creative person, a writer, an overly sensitive Pisces, with a bad memory and zero logic. In life and games, we are diametrically opposed. So our gaming life is very independent for us and very personal for us personally. When it comes to our screen time, we never have the opportunity to make connections or work together as a couple.

It turns out that we are not alone. Over the years, some studies have revealed the negative impact of games on marriage.It’s shocking that in 2018, the site Divorce online advice It saw a significant increase Fort night Cited by its users as a reason for divorce. Of all the divorce documents received that year, about 5% claimed that the game played a role in destroying their marriage.

in An earlier study published in 2012 by Journal of Leisure StudiesResearchers have found that 75% (usually male) of gamers’ spouses want the gamers in their relationship to put more effort into their marriage. They claim that this leads to their dissatisfaction with relationships and disputes because it hinders family time and intimacy.

However, the same study showed that 76% of couples who share gaming time and play together believe that gaming is beneficial to their marriage. They are more satisfied with the relationship in the same team. It reveals that working together to create miracles.

Therefore, when it comes to joining the tribe and buying Nintendo Switch during the lock-up period last year, I was very nervous. Skeptical, even.I imagine continuing to play Protect the animals Until 4 in the morning, picking peaches and swimming clams, while my husband slept in our bed alone, and vice versa.I was worried that we would fight on the console, and I would eventually eat alone, while my husband swore and sweated during the battle with Dynamax Pokémon Pokémon Shield.

I ended up watching him for hours trying to catch 150 Diglets in the game Island of armor Expanding, I feel that I have become angry-losing patience with things that should be pleasant. I’m very lively, and I only comment negatively on his playing style and technique, just because I can’t participate.Sometimes, I end up sitting on the sofa further and further away from him, resenting the console as it should be our. Until we purchased the 2017 The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild.