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I am debating my relationship because of materialistic things: My boyfriend is not drop-dead handsome, and he is not financially lavish.
However, he is very determined and has started a good healthy lifestyle, exercises regularly and eats healthily since I’ve asked him to take care of himself. He is very generous when I am with him and will always take care of the bills. He first ensures that I am satisfied before he spends on himself.
But he can’t enjoy life lavishly by traveling a few times a year or living in a bigger apartment. He explained those to me from day one before COVID-19, and it seemed that I accepted it. But now I feel that his long working hours don’t suit my lifestyle, given what he earns.
I am finding it hard that we can’t travel in the summer. However, he isn’t stopping me from traveling and encourages me to go. But I don’t feel like going without him, and I hate the feeling that I am deprived because he can’t enjoy what I can enjoy.
I need to decide: Is he the right one in my life, or am I making a mistake? He is in his early 40s and is just a year older than me.
-F.
Dear F.,
If you dump this guy for not being strikingly rich or GQ material, you’ll do both of yourselves a favor. You’ll free your boyfriend to find someone who appreciates the good qualities you describe, like the fact that he’s hard-working and generous. And you’ll be able to seek out someone who meets your standards, which may be impossibly high.
But I don’t want to automatically dismiss your concerns, because I’m not sure they’re materialistic. Sometimes, two people have clashing priorities. How you spend your money reflects those priorities. It’s not materialistic to end a relationship because your priorities are a complete mismatch.
I’ll admit I cringed a bit at your description of your boyfriend’s appearance and inability to “enjoy life lavishly.” But I don’t think it’s wrong that you…
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